I am a 39 year old African American male. I often found myself in the position of saying “she got me” pretty much all of my life stemming from my past heart breaks. I grew up in a God fearing sheltered environment and I inherited my mothers caring heart, so to make a long story short, I wasn’t prepared for any of the lies and games that some women tend to play in relationships. I seemed to somehow choose women who practiced extreme tactics of lies and deceit. Among several, here’s the final straw in my relationship history that broke the camels back and prompted me to create this type of dating site:
One early spring I resorted to an online matchmaking service to meet new people. After posting my personal ad, I started chatting on a regular basis, which was where I met a woman I'll just call “Linda”. “Linda” worked in the medical industry and she was really nice, we instantly hit it off and before long we were talking online every day. The chat room quickly gave way to phone calls. We talked both on and offline for awhile before we decided to meet in person. I realized some inconsistencies in information she’d given me about her past history, I should have recognized that as a red flag, but I shrugged it off thinking I just didn't listen well enough. Moreover, when “Linda” and I met face to face for the first time, it was apparent that her online picture was taken a good 40 or 50 pounds ago and I barely recognized her. At this point that didn’t matter. I’d already fallen hard for this woman from our previous interactions. Anyway, I did my best to show her a good time. Over the next two months, I spent several hundreds of dollars at expensive restaurants entertaining her. She never chose a reasonably priced restaurant for us to eat at. Not once did “Linda” even offer to leave the tip. That should have also been another red flag for me, but I shrugged that off also. We managed to become very close to each other over the following month, and in getting close there were promises of fidelity made between the two of us. My nose was wide open. “Linda” told me she’d never been happier in life with anyone than she was with me. “Linda” made a vow of faithfulness to me and I did the same for her. Well, the real shocker came one evening when “Linda” sent me a remote desktop invitation to help her fix a computer problem she was having. Remote desktop allowed me to control her computer with her permission from my location. Well, since we both belonged to the same online dating service I was curious to see how many other prospects she had and if she’d broken contact with them as she’d promised. Call me wrong but I just couldn’t help myself, my curiosity got the best of me. To make a long story short, “Linda” fell asleep as I worked away on her computer. I pointed her browser at the dating site we both belonged to and her username and password were already in the required fields, so… I proceeded. Let’s just say my tongue completely dried out from my mouth hanging open so long. The same treatment and pickup lines “Linda” used to reel me in were apparently the only ones she’s ever learned in life. There were at least twenty men being talked to and treated the same way “Linda” treated me. I discovered “Linda” was mass emailing her telephone number, sending multiple flirts on a “daily basis”, thanking men for lunches, doing starbucks runs as “Linda” put it, meeting men at night clubs and a host of other things that would instantly end a relationship. All of which was during the period of our relationship that “Linda” ever so vowed to be faithful. Whew… have you ever taken a look at yourself in the mirror after being played? Isn’t that the most ridiculous facial expression you’ve seen yourself do? I thank God for showing me who “Linda” really was early before I ended up a lot later in life crying with my mouth wide open and ashy lips!
In closing I would like to say these words:
Before the purchase of something new, whether it’s a house or a car, you evaluate it – give it the once over before you close the sale. You’d research the best neighborhoods for your new home purchase and hit cyberspace to find out what auto industry experts had to say about the car you wanted to purchase. Armed with your research, you’d make your purchase, confident you’d make a good decision. What if you could do that kind of research when you were relationship shopping? If you had a free and easy way to do research on that hot guy or girl you met at Starbucks who might just become your steady boyfriend or girlfriend if he or she plays their cards right? Wouldn’t you be just as confident that you’ve made the right decision in choosing a mate to share your life with?
There’s No Way to Do a Mental Background Check on Someone
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if your next partner came with a list – Secrets I’m Keeping From You? Or, how fabulous would it be if you could get all your new partners exes in a room and cross-examine them? You could really learn how your new partner operates. You’d have information you could use to discern whether you’re making the right choice in love. Of course, you can do a criminal background check, but no one’s invented a way to do a personality check. Is he or she attentive, caring and ambitious? Or does he / she cheat and lie? Is he / she controlling or is he a mama’s boy or girl? A criminal background check cannot answer these questions.
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Sincerely,
Nadir Hassan
Owner
